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30 Things That Are Sure To Make Your Medical Marriage Stronger
Let me tell you our story. I'm Theresa, I am an engineer-turned recruiter, and my husband is a GI fellow. My hobbies are writing, real estate, and personal finances. We have three small kids in a cute, small house. But that's not where our story begins. Our first date...
3 Biggest Challenges Of Medical Marriages During Residency (And How To Overcome Them)
You said "I do" to the person of your dreams... ...but that person happens to wear a white coat. Lots of joy and happiness follow when you get married, but you know like all marriages, it's not going to be all rainbows and unicorns 😀 The truth bomb is that there will...
How To Hire The Best Financial Advisor Whom You Can Trust
Walk into any local bank or brokerage and you see people working there with these titles: Wealth manager. Stock trader. Financial planner. Broker-dealer representative. It looks like they all had a lot of financial education. And they all sound alike. But you suspect...
8 Ways To Make Medical Training Years Less Stressful
In medicine, we have a super nerdy saying: "Like an EKG, if life didn't have its ups and downs you would be dead." It's true, though. There are days that are better than others. Some days are downright awful. For those in residency and fellowship, the hard days...
How To Save For Retirement When One Of You Isn’t Working — The Spousal IRA
Take these two doc wives' situations. Wife A: Her DrSpouse is in medical school. She is working to put them through medical school. Wife B: She stays home to care for the family. Her DrSpouse is working. Are any of these you? If so, it means probably only one of you...
I Just Had A Baby — Should I Stay Home Or Go Back To Work?
My husband and I got married during his first year of medical school. Then we had Child #1 during fourth year of medical school, Child #2 during second year of residency, Child #3 during the first fellowship. We were so happy when each of them arrived. But we also had...
3 Toxic Habits To Stop When Arguing With Your Dr Spouse
Like all couples in the history of humankind, you have had your fair share of fights in your marriage. It doesn't mean you are not a SUCCESSFUL couple, though. In fact, you WANT to have some disagreements because it means you are working and building together. Not...
Are You Making Any Of These Common Student Loan Mistakes That’s Costing You Tens Of Thousands?
Student loans are the bane of the existence for every single medical family I know of. As a doc wife, you're likely in charge of managing these loans for your DrSpouse. Or at least, you're helping your DrSpouse manage it correctly. At best, it's just one more thing to...
Why Your Dr Spouse’s CV Sucks — According To A Recruiter
It is time to apply to programs or jobs? You need to know these tips to make your CV impeccable.
History And Why Behind The Blog
It's my two year blogoversary! First, let me tell you our story. My husband and I fell silly in love one summer in undergrad while we were engineering students. We spent a ton of time together. We were inseparable. I had always assumed we would be a dual engineer...
3 Options In Case Your Dr Spouse Does Not Match Into A Fellowship
I hear you're trying to match into fellowship... Are you nuts??? Wasn't residency torture enough?? Just kidding. We were the same 😝 After residency, my husband applied for GI fellowship. Sadly, we didn't have a straight-forward experience getting into one. Instead of...
Creating A System To Control Paper Clutter In Your Home — That Works!
"I have so much paperwork. I'm afraid my paperwork has paperwork." -Gabrielle Zevin, author 😂 As a doc wife, you are likely managing most of the household. That means you pay your bills, file tax docs, and sign those permission slips for your kids. Papers are E V E R...
10 Random Facts About The Real Me
We just moved! And
Help! My Dr Spouse Doesn’t Know What Student Loans They Have — How Can I Find Out?
When you and your DrSpouse dated for the first time ever, you talked about your favorite foods, travel, and hobbies. While you're having a romantic moment, would you have asked: "So, how much student loans do you have?" No, too awkard?? 😂 If you're going to be married...
15 Non-Glamorous Realities About Being Married To A Doctor
For as long as you've been with your DrSpouse, has anyone said to you, "It must be nice"? Some of them are seriously happy for you. But some say it sarcastically 😢 People have a glamorous concept of what medicine is like thanks to media glorifying doctors in super...
Guide To Building An Emergency Fund That Actually Works
Emergencies are teamwork in medical families. Your DrSpouse is busy handling other people's medical emergencies. And you deal with emergencies of the non-medical variety. It's the tag-teaming life of a medical family. You could be handling any of these: Your car...
9 Texts Doc Wives Want From Their Dr Spouses
This is just a fun post. It was fun to write because it gets my creative juices going in my head. Enjoy! How about I take care of the kids so you can go out tonight? You deserve it. I still can't believe you married me. I finally threw away all the medical journals...
How To Do Pittsburgh With Kids On A Training Budget – Spring 2019
Pittsburgh holds a very special place in our hearts. It's where we met and fell silly in love as college students. We were inseparable then. And we pretty much still are — when he's not working 😜 We recently went on a trip to Pittsburgh this spring. We share...
Help! Am I Responsible For My Dr Spouse’s Student Loans In Case They Die Or Get Disabled?
"My husband and I have never considered divorce. Murder sometimes, but never divorce." - Joyce Brothers 😂 No couple ever wants to hear any of these two words with a letter "D": Divorce... or Death... But it does happen. As a doc wife, you should be aware of what...
Details Of An Argument With My Husband About Medicine
I was shopping on OfferUp to find some great deals. And I saw something really unique you don't see often. It was a caduceus wall plaque. I thought it would go well on his shelf. Our Argument When My Husband Got Home I asked him what he thought of it. Me: Do you like...
8 Ways To Make A Great First Impression And Attract Friends Fast
Each time you go through the Match, you are required to "report" to the program where your DrSpouse has to train for the next few years. And so you uproot everybody. Sometimes once, twice, or multiple times. And it's very hard. For each move a family makes, you have...
Top Blogs By Doc Wives That You Need To Follow In 2020
If you are a doc wife and have a blog that's not listed below, it's because I don't know about you yet! Would be happy to add you, please contact me. All blogs listed in alphabetical order. A Byers' Guide Name: Courtney Byers Type of blog: Affordable fashion, travel...
Can’t Afford The Life Insurance Policy You Need? A Creative Solution You Can’t Miss
Losing a spouse is up there with the top worst things anyone could ever experience. I worry about it myself. When the weather is bad or when my husband is on nights, I worry about his safety on the road. You just never know. I bet the thought of what life would be...
10 Ways To Help You Stay Within Your Grocery Budget
Do you even remember what it was like before you got married and NOT having to plan what to feed your family every. single. day? 😁 Getting a meal to the table every day is one of the hardest parts of adulting! The challenge is that food is expensive. According to the...
This Type Of Cancer Is The #2 Leading Cause Of Cancer Death, But Is Very Treatable If Detected Early
It's March and I interrupt my regular posts for this cause: Colon Cancer Awareness month! With a husband who is going into Gastroenterology Fellowship this July (my kids are already calling him a butt doctor btw 😂), colon cancer awareness is a cause that's very near...
Q&A Get To Know The Real Me — Favorites
DocWife.com started in September 2017 for a community of other doc wives. It is a name not just for myself, but represents each of us. We are all doc wives. As a doc wife, I have come across many challenges. I learned a lot throughout the medical journey and like to...
Am I Unsuccessful Compared To My Dr Spouse?
Many spouses of doctors had to make sacrifices to their career to support their DrSpouses. If that’s you, you’re not alone. Let me put a few things into perspective to calm your anxious, restless soul, friend.
Top 5 Brilliant Ways to Save on Your Next Disney Trip
This is a guest post (which means no money has been exchanged) by Gayle Smith of Prescription Travel. She is an accomplished traveler, an experienced and successful businesswoman, a devoted wife to a busy physician and a mother to two beautiful fur-babies. She has...
100 Actionable Ways To Start The New Year 2019 Easier, Wealthier, And Happier
Easier Set your desktop and your phone wallpaper to something serene. Meal plan for the entire week. Set alarm to wake up 15 mins early and put it across the room so you can't snooze it. Set automatic coffee every morning. Eat well. Start your day by staring at your...
A Guide to Matching Into A Competitive Fellowship
You can never forget Residency Match. It's very stressful, nerve-wrecking, and changes your life. And it feels like nobody gets it unless they have been through it. Once it's over, it's very relieving. And as if going through one Match per lifetime wasn't enough, you...