In 2010, my husband asked me to be his wife. Since then, we’ve been through an adventure.
There were many different seasons:
Some of them super hard and overwhelming, like the one when I gave birth 10 days after we moved for his first fellowship. Others were easier, like our first year of marriage when it was just us and we lived near family.
Throughout all of this, I’ve learned to love the motto:
“Love your season.”
Dear friend, you need this motto in your life!
If you are still in training, hang in there. These are the days you will fondly remember. It doesn’t feel that way now, but these are the days you will fondly remember. I know the day-to-day operations is so hard when time and money is tight and you are doing life solo without your partner who works “80” hours.
The key is don’t wait until that “one day” when your DrSpouse finishes training. Trust me: The joy is in the journey. Right now. You are living it.
Speaking of seasons, we are beginning a new season right now. And I am happy to say this:
Here we come, GI!
My husband just matched into a GI fellowship!
We are going back to the training life for another 3 years, but it’s much easier now that we had one year of a break. It’s like we took a deep breath before diving back in again.
Here’s a summary of our medical journey so far:
In 2014, my husband graduated medical school and started internal medicine residency, which took three years. While in residency, he decided he wanted to further specialize in GI. In 2017-2018, he completed a Clinical Nutrition Fellowship and did GI research to help him match into a GI fellowship. This took us on a one-year detour as a hospitalist. (But I’m not complaining, a six-figure income really helped.)
Even with the six-figure income we earned in the past year, which was 4 times more than it was in residency, we did not increase our lifestyle. This allowed us to build enough cash to frontload our retirement accounts for years to come.
If you are in training, I can’t recommend enough that when your DrSpouse finishes training, live like a resident for 2-5 years afterward. What you do with the first 12 paychecks as a newly minted attending will tell a person a lot about your financial health in the future.
Our medical journey has taken us many places
Two houses, 4 years of training, 1 year as a hospitalist, 3 energetic kids (and 10 cell phone upgrades later), we have to say “goodbye for now” to the COMMUNITY we have found in Cleveland.
Saying “goodbye” to people for me is the hardest part for me in the medical life. I hate hate hate it. But we are so much better for having had these relationships in our lives than not at all had we never moved at all.
Thank you, Cleveland, for giving me these lifelong friendships.
My top favorite list for Cleveland
Indoor favorite places in Cleveland with kids:
- Cleveland Botanical Garden
- Cleveland Children’s Museum
- Great Lakes Science Center
- Cleveland Art Museum (it’s FREE!)
- Play Day Cafe (in Solon)
Here are my outdoor favorite places in Cleveland with kids:
- Penitential Glen
- Lake Farmpark
- Preston’s HOPE Playground
- Edgewater Beach
- Acachia Reservation
- Superior Pho
- Luna Cafe
- Cork & Lennys Jewish Deli
- Mitchell’s Ice Cream
- Jeni’s Ice Cream (in Chagrin Falls)