We were so lucky to have had a lot of help along the medical journey to make our family strong. Along the way, I have collected this list of my favorite resources to help make your family strong, too.
I denote anything with an affiliate link with an asterisk.* While there are lots of affiliate links here, I use and love every single product and service here and would recommend them even if there wasn’t an affiliate. Any income I get helps keep my blog going and the kids in diapers while we are still in training.
Without further ado, these are the DocWife Resources.
It goes without saying that you should be learning and reading books. But you’re juggling everything and your to-do list is a mile long. There’s just not enough time in the day. So if I am going to go out and suggest any book to you, it means they have changed my life and I know they are going to change your life, too.
1. Bogleheads’ Guide to Investing by Mel Lindauer, Michael LeBoeuf & Taylor Larimore – If you had to get just ONE book on finances, this would be it. It was the “a ha” moment that changed my life. One of my friends calls it the “best $15 you will ever spend.” Bogleheads is a tribe of people who have a very active forum, which is like Wikipedia. Most of the information in that massive forum is condensed in this book. The book has enough information so you can act immediately upon it to start investing.
2. The Four Pillars of Investing by William J. Bernstein
3. The White Coat Investor by Dr. James Dahle
4. The Final Hurdle by Dennis Hursch, Esq. – The Final Hurdle is about physician employment contracts and it’s imperative you read this before or as you interview. Even if you are planning to hire a contract attorney to review your contract, you need this book. The secret sauce to getting an amazing contract is that you must bring up negotiation points before the contract is written. Once the contract is written and handed to you, it’s mostly a done deal. Read this book, get an upper hand at negotiating. Read my book review here.
5. The Doctors Guide To Book Series by Dr. Cory S. Fawcett
The most powerful student loan calculator by Student Loan Planner.
*Personal Capital. This allows you to see all your savings and investments in one place. No more shifting between your bank accounts, 403b, and IRAs to calculate your net worth.
Mint. This software tracks your budget.
LegalZoom. If anyone depends on you financially, you need a Will. You can create a straight-forward one for you and your DrSpouse for FREE.
*LastPass. Most of us are guilty of using one password for everything, which is one step away from having our identity stolen. LastPass stores all your passwords in a cloud. It is FREE to use.
*Blooom. If you are overwhelmed with your 401k/403b fund choices, this roboadvisor analyzes them and makes sure you don’t spend on needless fees and makes sure your 401k/403b is working harder for you.
*Digit. It’s a great app for saving for your emergency fund. I review it here.
Saving money apps
*Ibotta. This app is for saving on groceries.
*Ebates. If you join using my link and spend $25, you’ll get $10 back.
Place to find a room during away rotations
*Airbnb. This is one of our favorite ways to travel. If you use my link, you get $40 bonus to spend.
Rotating Room. If your DrSpouse needs a place to stay for an away or clinical rotation, you need to check this site. You do need to use your DrSpouse’s .edu email to verify they are/were in medical school. My husband used it for all his away rotations.
Lives of Doctor’s Wives Foundation. This non-profit organization helps training doctors’ families in need. They also have a private Facebook group of over 11,500+ members, which is a great community that has helped me in need.
Physician Finances Facebook Group.
Doc Wives Talk Money Facebook Group.
Married to Doctors. This is a podcast and blog by Lara McElderry for both men and women who are married to doctors. Putting her husband through surgical training while raising five boys, her work focuses on helping you through the medical journey and creating strong marriages. She also has a private Facebook group. I download her podcast and listen to them when I workout.
Side By Side. This organization is a ministry for medical and dental wives. With currently 80+ chapters, it started as an off-shoot of Christian Medical & Dental Association and new chapters are forming every year. They have been a miraculous source of “insta-friends” everywhere we moved. I can’t emphasize the importance of establishing your village and blooming wherever you are, so see if there is a chapter in your city. All religious (or non-religious) backgrounds are welcome.
Physician Family. This is an online magazine founded by Donna Rovito specifically for medical spouses and their families. Their articles are fantastic and completely free to read.
Dr. Kim Blackham. She is a licensed family therapist who concentrates her practice on medical marriages. She met and married her husband while he was still in surgical training and understands all that the medical lifestyle entails. She offers resources such as an online workshop called The Anatomy of Connection and a private Facebook group.
Fave life hacks
Life360. I can’t tell you how many times my husband has told me he’s on the way home, only to be delayed at work for longer. This app “beeps” when he leaves the hospital and has a GPS where he is on the map as he’s driving, like Harry Potter’s Marauder’s Map where he sees everybody’s footsteps (I’m a nerd). Now I know when he really is on the way home.
*SimpliSafe. Sometimes you don’t know the neighborhood you move into very well yet. For peace of mind, get this system. Unlike most systems, it does not lock you into a contract and is strictly month-to-month, and you can take it with you easily whether you move. If you use my link, you will get 10% off.
*Tile. I can’t spend any time looking for my phone and wallet when I go out the door. This makes a chime so I can find them. Use my link.