If you’re new here, let me tell you our story. My husband and I fell silly in love one summer in undergrad while we were engineering students. We spent a ton of time together. We were inseparable.
I had ALWAYS assumed we would be a dual engineer family.
But life had very different ideas for us.
A few days into our engagement, he told me he was thinking about leaving his engineering career to go to medical school. And that’s when the man I loved went back to school and took his very FIRST pre-med class. I’m talking Biology 101! And, as you all know, that’s it has been a loooong medical journey ever since!
We got married during his first year of medical school. He then did Internal Medicine Residency, Clinical Nutrition Fellowship, and currently is doing a Gastroenterology Fellowship.
In the meanwhile, we grew our family with three amazing, beautiful and active kids:
- The first was born during medical school
- The second during residency
- The third during the first fellowship
(When this blog was started in September 2017, we had 3 kids who were three and under!)
Medical life as a family has unique challenges. As my husband and I went through all the stages of medical training while raising our family, balancing my day job with all I had to do at home, and moving to wherever the Match required us to, we didn’t know how to navigate it at all.
We learned an incredible amount (and still are). And I wished I knew a lot of these things while I was going through it. I wanted to create a place where you can feel supported and listened to, and get tips along the way to make your family strong.
That’s why the blog.
My blog’s mission is to help medical spouses create strong families.
I have divided all my articles into these pillars:
- Marriage & Parenting
- Personal Development
- Medical Life
- Personal Stories
Let me tell you what these sections mean.
As a medical family, you have a unique financial situation. You’re one decade late in retirement savings and have six-figure student loans burying you at high-interest rates.
You can hire a financial advisor, but unless you can tell good from bad advice, you may NOT be on the path to meeting your goals and you wouldn’t even know it.
The Finances section helps empower you to keep more of your family’s shard earned money and grow your net worth by avoiding bad advice. This way, you can spend time together in meaningful ways:
More health. More time. More slow projects. More philanthropy. More family.
Finances is the how. All of this that I just mentioned — is the why.
Imagine juggling several balls: work, kids, home, finances, self-care. And you can’t drop any of them.
That’s what it’s it’s like for you every. single. day.
And I know first hand that it’s exhausting. As a wife, mom, working professional, relentless overachiever, and recovering perfectionist, I feel YOU.
The Simplicity section talks about how to simplify your life, establish habits, and increase your productivity to dial down the crazy so you can breathe and enjoy what matters most in life.
Marriage & Children
Relationships are hard. We don’t have much time to connect with our DrSpouses. Our children have a hard time bonding with their Dr Dad or Dr Mom who is gone a lot. Our DrSpouse wishes they can be home more.
The Family section talks about how to make the most of marriage and parenting.
I have struggled with areas in my life, such as confidence, and talk about how I address these issues. I’m learning as I go. Hopefully, you learn from my journey to becoming a better person.
As a recruiter, I have some career advice, from interviewing, negotiation contracts, working from home, and asking for a raise.
Each family’s medical journey is different. Yours is unique, too. I document ours and share tips that could help you on how to write your DrSpouse’s CV, match into residency or fellowship, pass the boards, make friends, and other experiences we have personally gone through.
When I write, I pretend that you’re in my living room, and we’re having a conversation together. The Personal Stories section gives you a better idea of the real me.
Travel is our way of life. We’re never the same person as before we left home. That’s why it’s important to us. We have done everything from backpacking to cruising. Our kids get their passports before their first birthdays. We’re always mapping out where we want to go next.
Sounds dreamy when you actually got money, right?
Well, we found frugal ways to do it even in residency and fellowship and I share how we do it!
If you dream of traveling like us, YOU can do it, too.
We’re in this journey together, friend.
I’m a hugger. I’m hugging and supporting you.
To your strong medical family,